teguran itu..

memberi teguran atau menegur ada caranya

let say if you made some mistakes

and suddenly

one of your friends come to you

and speaks like hell

"wei mangkuk! ko ni bongok ke apa wat kerja macam tu"

and of course

you as a human being will feel like

WTFB for that person to say those things to you

terutamanya kalau menegur benda yang sensitif

it's true that what's wrong is always wrong

but, to make people listen is by tackle them

bukan la ngorat

tapi you need to know them well

only then barulah boleh nak masuk jarum (u know what i mean?)

i give you an analogy

if you were to enter someone's house

firstly you must greet the person

and then

you will take your shoes off

and you enter when they asked you to do so

after that

they'll asked you to have a sit and drinks

that's how things work

you don't simply enter their house without permission

and you don't enter their house with your shoes on

you get what i mean?

respect people

so when you give them advices

at least

they take your words even if you can't change them

it's better than nothing

i still remember back than in 2006

one of my peer was very mad to a guy that give her some so called advices

she was like totally freaking mad to that guy and said

" aku dah hidup 17 tahun dengan cara ni dan kau perlukan lagi 17 tahun untuk ubah hidup aku"

and being there

i was petrified and stupefied of course to listen such things from my own friend

but Alhamdulillah

all she needs is just a suitable approach

and she changed in less than a year because of the correct approach

it's good for us to correct others

but do think of suitable approaches

may Allah ease our way

may success always with us

insyaAllah and wallahu'alam